Frequently Asked Questions
1. How can you help me?
Imagine feeling overwhelming bouts of joy for no apparent reason. I guide people to a place of inner peace, so that they may live their lives in a state of joy and equanimity.
2. How do you do that, and what makes you different from the “others”?
Soul Wounds prevent people from achieving their highest potential. I have the gift to recognize and articulate the actual feelings and soul wounds that people are experiencing. Intuitively, I know which example to share with an individual that matches one of their soul wounds, without knowing anything about them. This is not a technique; rather, it is an intuition that we are all born with and one which I have nurtured. This allows me to guide them gently and gracefully out of their self-deceptions, to a place of empowerment and inner peace.
By healing my own soul wounds, I am able to offer unconditional love to my clients. They can be, say or do anything, without judgment, and there is nothing they can say or do for me to love them less. This provides a safe environment for my clients to learn, heal and grow.
3. Do you have a process?
We start to recognize that all human traits exist in all of us and they are neither good/bad or right/wrong; they just are. As humans, we are a paradox – cowardly/brave, victim/perpetrator, intelligent/stupid…
There are no mistakes. Our choices and our actions simply result in cause and effect, or natural consequences. There are no wrong paths. Whether we choose path A or path B, we can be assured that there is “gold” on either path.
We come to an understanding, that every interaction is either an act of love or a call for love, so there is nothing to forgive.
To heal, we see through our self-deception and identify our soul wounds, taking 100% responsibility and accountability for who we are, without blaming anyone or anything, including ourselves. We do this by understanding that everyone and everything that shows up in our lives is provided by the universe for us to learn what it is we need to heal in ourselves. Then, by ‘acknowledging’, ‘accepting’ and ‘embracing’ these aspects of who we are, we allow ourselves the freedom to be: freedom from denying or judging what is.
4. How can you tell when people have healed their wounds?
They become empowered rather than powerful. Traditionally, people are counseled to become powerful by setting boundaries and taking control of their lives; they “don’t have to take it anymore!” By doing so, they may become “powerful” however they must then avoid certain people or situations so that they are not destroyed by mere words or actions, rendering them “powerless.”
Powerful and powerless are flip sides of the same coin. We act powerful because we are powerless, and we easily become powerless when someone takes our power away.
Now imagine an empowered coin that you can flip over and over, and regardless of how many times you flip it, you end up with empowerment. Being empowered is about having choices where it was previously perceived that there were none.
5. How long does the healing process take?
The process usually starts when a person’s face ‘hits the pavement’ and they decide to take action. People often wish to ‘fix’ the other person. Parents spend $80,000 or more, sending their children away for an intensive one-week course for ‘help’ with their eating disorders, not recognizing how the parents’ own behaviours have influenced that of their children and, at best, creating a temporary ‘fix’, treating the symptoms instead of the wounds that create the behaviour.
I don’t treat the symptoms; I guide people to heal their wounds. The time it takes varies from individual to individual based upon what they identify as their anguish-causers and how quickly they choose to open their hearts and feel, instead of analyze. It takes as long as it takes.
